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The Problem With Sam
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Most people have discussed how Sam is (generally) an awful person on the show, but I feel like a lot have people have gone well into detail over particular comments he made, but completely missed a lot of what he does that is deceptive, manipulative and downright evil.
Sam is a textbook "nice guy." He is not honest about his wants, his needs or his flaws. He seems to hold the belief that if he says things that will make people think he's "nice" that he will get what he wants.
This is probably most shown in his interactions with Jasmine more than anything. Sam does not hold a consistent dialogue about his wants, he instead probes Jasmine to give him information which he can bounce off in order to make her think he is a great match for her. The thing is, most "nice guys" are awful at this, and it can be picked up by pretty much anyone.
Another thing people like Sam do is deny themselves the right to be sad. When Sam faces rejection, his initial reaction is to immediately try to prove to no one but himself that he is over it and that he is ready. I imagine that Sam has done this a number of times, and that this has led to an accumulation of unresolved emotions regarding anything surrounding failure or rejection.
Pair that with Sam's dangerous obsession over love, a concept that has to be conquered for him to feel validated and approved, and you have what makes a man go from desperately trying to win over one woman, failing, and then desperately trying to win over another - who he does not have genuine feelings for.
Most men who are like this genuinely do not understand why what they are doing is not getting them what they want, but the issue is, they do not know what they want. Sam is not even aware of what he wants in a partner. He seems infatuated by the idea of a relationship, but he has very little self-respect or understanding of his own needs.
The biggest issue with men like this is that when these subsequent failures from thinking that "if I am nice to everyone, they will love me and give me what I want" keep happening, they start to think that they need to do the opposite. This makes them go from being overly "nice" to being spiteful, bitter and avoidant of accountability for pain that they have caused other people.
There seems to be a lot of deep, unresolved trauma in Sam, and genuinely, I do pity him. I think he needs to understand who he is as a man and what his masculinity means for him. However, even this causes issues for him since he doesn't want to resolve it. Instead, he's gone from "nice guy" to bitter asshole to "please, everyone, feel sorry for me."
The last two stages are shown in the mixer and the reunion. Sam's bitterness comes out at the mixer, where he feels entitled to Benaiahs respect, but he does not approach him with a drop of accountability, and immediately tries to get under his skin. His niceness doesn't work for him again and he cannot handle that someone does not like him for something that he did. Instead of taking accountability, he lies to Benaiah and tries to threaten his relationship's integrity.
In the reunion, we see Sam pity himself more than ever. His unresolved shame stops him from thinking about what he has done to people and instead makes him selfish. He is not a bad person for wanting people to understand that he is hurt - but it becomes a problem when it stops him from understanding how he has hurt others.
Overall, I do not genuinely think Sam is a bad person. I think, with a lot of self-love, accountability and some repairations, he can understand who he is, what he wants from life, and earn the respect for himself and from others that he both wants and needs. He needs to spend less time with people that validate his emotions when those emotions don't help him, and needs to accept that he has to make some uncomfortable changes if he wants to be successful.
Also Sam, if you're reading this, show yourself the love you really need, not want, and please speak to a therapist.
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Sam struggles with a phenomenon called narcissistic vulnerability. His vulnerability is fake and manipulative. He wears it to get people to do and say the things that will make him feel better about himself. Then, when the outer layer of bullshit is stripped away with time, the real Sam comes out and he reveals himself to be a broken, scared little boy.
Can someone explain the hype behind Sam??? : r/survivor
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Does Sam actually need a buff/rework or is it just a skill issue?
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Sure we could argue that Sam isn’t doing that great right now or in the past couple months (past year maybe?) but in my opinion I think Sam doesn’t need a flashy buff or rework, I like how he is right now and the skill/coordination needed to play him.
Just because he isn’t top 30 doesn’t mean he’s unplayable, sure he could use maybe a small buff or a potential hypercharge to be meta but then he is just going to be nerfed and become useless. (Gale)
Sure it is fun to make up gadget/star reworks for him but we all know that’s not happening because if they touch Sam they have to touch everyone else.
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What is the current mainstream opinion of Sam Harris in philosophy circles?
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Hi everyone, I’m asking this question because yesterday I posted on the suggestmeabook sub asking for book suggestions relating to competent refutation of pessimism in the face of nihilism. I mentioned in the post that I was planning on reading 2 Sam Harris books (moral landscape and free will). Most of the comments were kind enough, offering good faith suggestions but one commenter basically made fun of me for reading Sam Harris and got quite a few upvotes. I felt a bit embarrassed for mentioning it if I’m honest. I know I should probably not take it so seriously.
I’m not a philosopher or philosophy student so my ability to critique philosophy books or just discussion of philosophical topics is probably quite low. I read to genuinely learn and I’ve usually found Sam to make sense, at least to me, when I’ve heard him speak online.
I searched the philosophy sub and it seems that Sam has a bit of a mixed reputation (but nothing that would make someone be mean for no reason just because I said I’m planning on reading his book) however most posts are several years old.
What’s the current view of Sam by trained philosophers?
Does he have any fans within philosophy circles?
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Why the Sam?
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I was thinking maybe they were gonna pick a Mandy, but why Sam?
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